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Maintaining the Illusion of Control

Maintaining the Illusion of Control

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Unhappy: When you want things to be different than they are.
Happy: When you accept things as they are.

Sad: When you fixate on times when things turned out differently than you wanted.
Neutral: When you know you have little control over how things will turn out.
Anxious: When you fixate on times when things might turn out differently than you want.

Stressed: When you think you have control over how things will turn out.
Relaxed: When you know you don’t have control over how things will turn out.

Agitated: When you live in the future.
Calm: When you live in the present.
Sad: When you live in the past.

Angry: When you expect a just world, but it isn’t.
Neutral: When you expect that it could be a just world, but likely isn’t.
Happy: When you know it doesn’t matter if the world is just.

Angry: When others don’t meet your expectations.
Neutral: When you know your expectations are about you.
Happy: When you have no expectations.

Timid: When you think people will judge you negatively.
Neutral: When you think people may judge you negatively or positively.
Happy: When you know what people think about you is none of your business.

Distracted: When you live in the past or future.
Focused: When you live in the now.

Afraid of change: When you think all things are static.
Accepting change: When you know all things are dynamic.

Intimidated: When you think you don’t meet someone’s expectations.
Confident: When you know you did your best.

Uncomfortable: When you want things to be different than they are.
Comfortable: When you know the Universe doesn’t care what you think.

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